How to Spot a Hijackal
An introduction to the toxic people I call Hijackals. Get my free ebook to help you quickly recognize them, especially when they’ve been right under your nose for years.
Escaping the Hijackal Trap
Even when you know you’re with a Hijackal, getting out of a toxic relationship – or understanding how to live safely and fully within one – can seem really hard.
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Boost your resilience and resistance to Hijackals in your future. You deserve to live free of emotional and verbal abuse. Learn how to reclaim your power and rebuild your life.
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Do you know a Hijackal?
If you feel hoodwinked, scapegoated, always wrong, always blamed, and powerless, you are likely in the grips of a Hijackal.
Not sure what a Hijackal looks like? This free ebook can help you know what to look for.
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